Unless the Lord builds the house, those who build it labor in vain. Psalm 127:1

Sunday, November 10, 2013

Passport to Purity....

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I'm not sure if you have heard of this series by Denise & Barbara Rainy but it is AMAZING! My friend Heather was telling me about it this summer and God really laid it on my heart to pursue a time away with Morgan to work through it. Back when my girls were very little a good friend of mine shared with me how she took each one of her kiddos out of town when they turned 13 and had "the talk" with them. Now to some this may seem old fashioned but I can promise you, teaching our kids Gods desire for sex, intimacy and marriage is never old fashioned. Morgan won't turn 13 until Feb. but with the holidays, dance competitions etc. I didn't want to miss my chance to spend some time with her. Last week we escaped for 2 nights and 3 days down to Laguna beach. Just the two of us and the Passport to Purity series.
To start off the trip we got foot reflexology....ahhhhhh heaven!

We stayed right on the beach at la Casa del Camino. Walking distance to all the good food and cute shops. The weather was crystal clear and warm....just beautiful!

This was the bench right outside of our hotel. We walked and talked A LOT!

We drank fru-fru drinks while talking about Gods desire for Morgans life as a daughter of the king. How he values her and desires the very best for her life.

We ate delicious food and talked about how when our focus is first and foremost on honoring the Lord in everything we do (especially dating/marriage) that God will honor that in us. How saving your body and your energy for the right man will please the Lord.......that learning to wait on God is an essential part of learning obedience in all things.

We got our toes painted and then ran them through the sand......

We were tired the first night so we ordered pizza from this place that I LOVE! They do gluten free and dairy free pizza down there. Each night as a family we always ask each other,"What was the best part and the worst part of your day?" It was so funny because Morgan said,"I know this is going to sound silly for my best part of the day; but I loved having pizza come to the door in a box like that! I have never seen a pizza guy bring dinner before." Ha! Poor sheltered children.

As we were talking about Gods design for sex, physical intimacy and marriage I was torn because one minute it would be this deep conversation and the next she was sprinting down the beach like a care free kid.......

"God, how can it be I have a child old enough to be discussing these things? I that old? What's happening?"

I love that she's stuck in that in between being a little kid and being a teenager phase. It's fun to sit back and watch her battle with running and playing and being free and being grown.........usually the running care free wins out. I'm glad about that. The fellowship was so sweet. I was sitting there watching her jump and twirl down the beach thinking to myself, "I will remember this time alone with her always. Nobody can take this from us. It's ours. It's going to go along way in our relationship down the road. I just know it."

The series gives you directions and ideas on how the time away should flow. It's very intentional about teaching girls and boys to respect themselves and others. To wait. To fall in love with someone who wants them to wait as well. Since our girls were little we have told them our hearts desire is for them to only date with the purpose of marriage. This series reinforces that. Not to mess with other peoples lives and give pieces of yourself away. Focus on church,  school, work, hobbies, family etc. and allow God the opportunity to bring forth a Godly man or women for you when you are old enough to pursue appose to playing house in Jr. high and High school.

The series suggest a special gift at the end, like a ring or bracelet. Something that reminds them of you and your husbands commitment to them to help them make wise choices and choose to wait until their wedding for any intimacy.

We bought Morgan a beautiful opal and diamond ring. She was super excited. I would encourage you to check this series out if you have kids ages 12 and up. Anything younger would not have worked with my kids. Not ready yet. This was a time that made me nervous if I'm being honest but as usual God honored my prayers and the time we set apart for our talk. Good things came from it and I am thanking God ahead of time for what more will come from it. I think I will wait until Ryanne is like 21 to tell her anything though HA!


BC said...

What a blessing to read. Thank you for the advice I am going to buy it now and prepare for what is coming so soon. I needed something like this. I loved the last part about Ryanee. She will be there and fantastic in her own way!

Jessica said...

How awesome that you guys could get away and do that, AND that it was totally enjoyable :) My parents did something like that with us too. I think they used the Dr. Dobson material.

ALways good to start a very open dialog and teach your kids a healthy viewpoint about sex.

I was reading a very alarming artical about porn and the easy access kids have to it, and that your kids should feel like they can ask you what something is (related to sex) instead of Googling it.... because then they are exposed to all kinds of stuff.

Erica Young said...

You are such an awesome mom! I wish my mom had that talk with me. And that is great for when I have to handle that 12 or so years down the road :) I need to come to California one day. It looks so beautiful there! Anytime you want house guests let me know :) haha. How did she take the talk?