Unless the Lord builds the house, those who build it labor in vain. Psalm 127:1

Friday, December 16, 2011

Marriage 101

I mentioned we had our Christmas dinner for Married life a week ago. Jack Hibbs (our speaker) said something that really stuck with me. He said we should be anticipating our spouses needs. It's the whole idea of being a servant taken to the next level really. I mean can you imagine a world where we anticipate one anothers needs? What would it feel like for you if a friend anticipated your needs and was there selflessly? Or if your kids started anticipating needs around the home and started acting on them? How would your spouse feel if you did that just because?
I mean where does that kind of love and service come from. Not of our strength that's for certain. I mean in my own strength I barely have enough for my kids and husband by the end of the day let alone to anticipate extra needs whether they be emotional or physical.
BUT there is good news; if we do it in the strength of the Lord we will have a heart to do that for our spouse. What would our homes look like if we took that extra minute to love our husbands so much that we knew and acted on what their needs were before they had to ask.

Personally I think it would have a ripple affect. It would go from our husbands down to our kids into our extended families and into the church body. Hmmmmm......
So is it easy? No. And it won't come natural because were by nature selfish. But being in the word and lots of practice I know we can do it. :)
I want to be that kind of wife, mom and friend for sure!
Why because God first loved me.
I think people take marriage struggles to lightly. I mean if your marriage is under fire it is spiritual warfare. And it should be seen as that. Satan wants to destroy marriages because it has the most devastating ripple affect when he wins. I say let's reverse that and serve our spouse whether they return it or not. Being more concerned about their walk and condition of their hearts than what we get out of it.
Can you imagine when we start to love like that what our homes will look like!
I'm so excited! :)


BC said...

Right on! Sounds like he was a very motivational speaker!!

Erica Young said...

he does sound like a very good motivational speaker. that also sounds like a good plan. you'll have to keep us updated on how it goes. I need to catch up with you, how are you doing/feeling?

Crystal said...

Just got caught up on your blog. Your girls are having so much fun, I love seeing how they're learning to be generous. Okay, we have to take Gideon to the station one of these future years (when he understands what's going on) I think he will eat it up!